12 reasons why when my boyfriend cheated on me, I joined Alcoholics Anonymous

And I would have no qualms about doing it again Trigger Warning: Alcoholism and addiction Disclaimer: I did not strictly adhere to the 12 steps When I discovered my boyfriend had got his…

Dear Diary: Testifying from beyond the grave

When murder victims are put on trial, how do they make themselves heard? “I am aware that you have the capability to kill me with a word, whether you desire…

Appropriate Adulting

Midlife crisis or epiphany? I turn 45 next week. I am not exactly in denial about it, but I do keep forgetting that it will be happening. I do not…

Why Promising Young Woman sends the right message

By a former promising young woman Trigger warning: Rape, suicide Spoiler warning: Discussion of the film Promising Young Woman Why are some women on the fence about the carefully scheduled message of Promising…

The Myth of Resilience

Stop expecting something bad to happen It has been a tough week for me. A colleague, a former manager, in fact, died at the age of 45. This was a role I…

The Dark Side of Network Marketing

Accountability and ethics in Multi-Level Marketing When I was briefly between roles in 2017 and chose to become self-employed, I found myself missing the sense of community and camaraderie that…

Unitended Consequences of Covid-19

My Lockdown Romance I am a bit of a geek. This is something that I have always known about myself. In March 2007, I started dabbling in virtual worlds. I ran a nightclub,…

Shades of Dysfunctional

Life beyond the lens I always believed that to be a webcam girl you had to be pretty, and young. Or at the very least generic looking. Everywoman. To fulfill a male…

Bonfire of the Indignities

There is a personal cost to selling yourself to an audience that does not recognise your humanity. I was never the sort of person with limited imagination, a narrow mind,…

Before the Fall

Hari had been three hours late for our first date. There had been no apology. There had been no hello, either. There was only a phone call that began “……